Confidence grows with time. But you can fast track confidence and learn new ways to embed confidence from your very core.
Confidence manifests itself in everything we do, in every aspect of our lives and how we treat ourselves and allow ourselves to be treated by others. It all adds up.
Consider every moment from:
the type of sleep you get,
what you eat,
how much water you drink,
the amount of exercise to take,
the words you use when you talk,
how you interact with people,
the clothes you wear
the way you hold yourself (body language)
what you do when you relax and socialise,
how you apply yourself to work tasks,
how you plan,
how react to difficult situations,
how you process your emotions,
your reactions to things you cannot control...
As I said, confidence can manifest itself in every single thing you do. You just have to tap into it and use every opportunity to your advantage.
You become like the people you surround yourself with
You can start to build your confidence by being around people that are confident, that are happy and that are making a success of their life.
People's attitudes are contagious - are the people's attitudes that you currently surround yourself with worth catching?
Confidence can be intimidating...
Not everyone is ready or willing to be around people that exude confidence and dare to be different. Occasionally you'll experience the 'haters' in life - the ones that try to bring confident people down. That's just par for the course and a real reflection on them and their own insecurities. Don't let that stop you on your own personal journey. In order to be different, we have to become different - sometimes that means leaving some people behind.
Confidence can be empowering
Decide who you want to be - and go for it.
It's easier than you may think to make new friends and be in communities where confidence flows freely like a stream. These are the communities you need to seek out. You can try Facebook, Meet-Up, local groups at the library, free fitness in the community - there are a bunch of things out there right under your nose. You just have to look for it.
There are no limits. Only the ones you set for yourself.
We can all benefit from outside help and encouragement - if are looking for a coach please check out my website to find out more.
What does an industry fashion exhibition at the Kensington Olympia and Roberta Style Lee have in common? Keep reading and you'll find out. I attended the Pure London show on Sunday the 24th and Monday 25th of July 2016 in support of the co-founder Haseena Latheef on the ethical clothing brand, DFYnorm stand. You may now be wondering what the heck Lifestyle Coaching and a fashion event has in common, well if I didn't have personal stylingas an additional confidence boosting add-on service to my coaching, it may seem a bit unusual. But I do offer that as a service. Looking good on the outside in addition to feeling good about yourself on the inside is just as important - I am an advocate of taking care of yourself from the inside-out. This event was also about supporting the new partnership I have formed with DFYnorm.
What's so great about DFYnorm?
The brand itself is headed up by the co-founder Haseena Latheef who is a passionate speaker and advocate for the powerful women. My brand is about empowering women and so is hers. DFYnorm is more than just clothes - yes the collection has certain pieces which I loooove, but it's not just about the aesthetics. It's deeper. Haseena truly cares. DFYnorm as a brand truly cares. The collection is about strength and identity - celebrating the women who make smart choices and care about what they wear - these women are empowered and confident. You can read more about the brand in my interview (part of the #InspirationalWomen series) with the co-founder of the ethical fashion brand DFYnorm Haseena Latheef here. She hopes her brand will inspire women to be their true selves, to love themselves, to love others and in turn love the planet.
Scratching beneath the surface of fashion
That's the interesting thing - fashion can be just be very surface level for some, or it can be explored much deeper. Fashion can mean more, fashion can do more. Those in the industry (designers, suppliers, owners, buyers, consumers etc.) have a massive responsibility on their shoulders to behave responsibly, sustainably and ethically. More and more consumers are aware (and care) about what they wear. And I care about what my clients wear too clothing is more than just material, it has the ability to change lives - not just for the wearer, but all those involved in the process. Consumer consciousness can influence the industry and together we can all make a difference. Haseena Latheef chaired a panel talk about leading positive fashion trends. She had her own story to tell post event - you can read her blog: My Pure London Saga, Panel on Positive Fashion and Winners Announced! The panel talk was interesting and one thing that really sparked my interest was about the myths surrounding ethical fashion brands - that ethical fashion is ugly. The idea that we can now look good, feel good and do good is something that resonated with me. You'll see me using #LookGoodFeelGoodDoGood and #LookGoodFeelGoodLiveGreat a lot more across my social media posts from now on.
I decided to find out more about ethical fashion and sustainable fashion and what that means for the consumer. I spent a lot of time looking at other brands and asking about their sourcing processes. I found a few new brands that peaked my interest. Coming up in my next few blogs:
I will be publishing a list of the ethical brands that I discovered at the Pure London show.
A review of the DFYnorm clothes I received will be going live.
I will also be introducing you to some of the inspiring women working in fashion that I have lined up for my #InspirationalWomen series.
In the meantime don't forget to take advantage of the special DFYnorm discount code:
Until the next time... Stay fabulous. Roberta x
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Women inspire me. Motivated, successful and confident women really inspire me. Real women with real stories are inspirational. Women that defy the norm and design products/deliver services that help women feel better about themselves or empower women - seriously inspire me! With so much talent and inspiration out there I thought I would start a new #inspirationalwomen series for my monthly newsletter. I decided to post a few teasers on the blog - starting with this one. I hope you enjoy reading it. If you want to catch the whole series SIGN UP HERE.
An interview with the co-founder of DFYnorm the up and coming ethical fashion brand - 15 June 2016, London
I met Haseena in a hotel bar not far from Oxford street. She is the co-founder of an up and coming ethical brand called DFYnorm who make high quality fashion items for the empowered woman. Haseena arrived looking casual but elegant wearing an aztec print jacket (which has it's own story!) over a black dress teamed with a tan satchel. We sat down at a table and ordered a bite to eat and some non-alcoholic drinks before the interview commenced.
Here's a short 2-minute video which explains more about the brand and why I was so keen to know more about the inspirational women behind it:
Me: Thanks for meeting with me Haseena - so I'm excited to hear more about your story, tell me what motivated you to come up with the DYFnorm clothing brand? I love that you've dared to be different in your attitude towards fashion.
H: Well it all started because my co-founder and I were fed up with the mainstream fashion industry and what it represented.
The clothes we wear not only communicate who we are but also have a huge impact on the world, socio-culturally as well as environmentally. There is so much throw away and waste. Garments are no longer investments. I’d rather be making clothes that are meaningful and connect people with their truth. Fashion can play a role in inspiring women on a journey of self-discovery.
Me: Empowering stuff! I love it.
H: I believe in the Vivienne Westwood ideology about buying less but choosing well. If you are smart about your fashion, you will be able to buy pieces that are investment worthy and well-thought-out. My co-founder came up with a really interesting phrase- “Shop for a reason. Not a season.” It's why we created a brand that cared.
Me: I believe that ‘clothing’ is more than just functional material. It’s nice to hear such a passionate voice for more meaningful and ethical fashion.
H: I want my designs to appeal to powerful women, leaders and creators who are unafraid to defy the norm.
Me: That’s great! You sound like a brand that is pushing the boundaries and making ethical fashion elegant.
H: Thank you. It is, and we like to think we are. I like what you do too. Unlike most stylists, your approach with feeling good from the inside first feels more authentic and real - I’m sure many women will relate to that.
Me: Thank you - I love what I do. Empowering people to look good, feel good and live a great life is so rewarding. I have to ask...what is the secret to your confidence?
H: My confidence? I never really think about it. I keep all my interactions very honest and personal. I wear my own brand a lot because I love what we’ve made - and it makes me feel good to wear great fitting, high quality clothes that are made with a real purpose.
Me: What about exercise? I use fitness as a tool to keep me sane, happy and confident. What do you do to stay fit and healthy?
H: I have to say yoga is my favourite form of exercise. When I work out 3 times a week, I feel like everything else falls into place - and I eat right automatically too.
Me: Exercise and food are two hugely important components of a happy healthy lifestyle - I always say 'fuel your ambition with good nutrition'. When my exercise and nutrition is on point my confidence skyrockets - I genuinely feel like I can take on the world!
H:That’s so true. I know what you mean.
Me: Well, I think that brings us to the end of our interview. Thanks for your time and I look forward supporting you on future projects!
H: Yes – I am open to what the future holds. I like that we both have a lot of resonance with what we do. I look forward to seeing your ‘brutally honest’ review of the clothes I send you!
Me: I look forward to reviewing them! I left the interview totally inspired by the vision that Haseena and her co-founder have for DFYnorm. It made me think about what other things I can do moving forward to support great women who are out there trying to make a difference. So will you join me? Will you dare to defy the norm and do some good today? DFYnorm have made it super easy for you.... you can look good, feel good - and do good! Just visit their website to see the full collection at www.dfynorm.comand use take advantage of the special discount code below.
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Stay fabulous ladies and whenever possible always try to stay informed! Roberta x
Notes: This interview was carried out by Roberta Style Lee as part of the Inspirational Women series. DFYNorm is a brand created by two inspiring women set to revolutionise fashion and what it stands for. DON'T MISS OUT ON FUTURE INTERVIEWS - SIGN UP TO MY NEWSLETTER HERE: http://www.robertastylelee.co.uk/#!subscribe-to-the-newsletter/umwhr
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