Writing about what I experience in my life and analysing what happens when I do certain things is how I have managed to be stay very level headed. It gives me the confidence I need to just keep going and not let little matters interfere with the bigger picture. But since I am human and not a robot - I can still be thrown off my guard.
One of the things that can occur when you get so focused on removing negativity from your life is your brain can go into auto-pilot. Especially the female brain - it is hardwired to refer back to emotional situations that we've experienced previously, or even ones we've been told about - we then compare the likeness and make a decision based on a current situation and lots of scenarios before. Annoyingly it can jump to conclusions. Sometimes we can act in haste to protect ourselves and then - whoops - we realise we were too quick to react.
It is a perfectly legitimate method and one that I will continue to use. It is however not fool proof. When we add 'emotions' into the mix we tend not to think as rationally as we normally would.
Every once in a while you will encounter a situation that you are not able to fix, console, understand or even relate to. And that's OK.
The life long learner in me always wants to 'explore further, grasp what is really going on and then get closure' on anything that seems to escape my understanding.
The truth is nobody is perfect. We can all make the wrong assumption about a situation or another person too quickly, we are all capable of acting irrationally at times.
In today's modern world we have added complexities of communication streams going through digital channels - when trying to resolve a situation with someone it is always best done face-to-face. Always.
When situations like this occur for me, they tend to be matters too close to my heart. I need to step away from it for a few days focus on something else and then take a fresh look at the situation. I always seek an outside perspective and get a non bias point of view. This helps me get my own thoughts and emotions into check. Having a lot of friends and acquaintances that are coaches does help mind you...
4 Questions To Ask Yourself When You Make A Mistake
- How do you feel about the outcome?
- Could you have reacted differently?
- What might you do in a similar situation next time?
- What would you expect to happen next time?
Everything we experience is an opportunity to learn and grow... we all mistakes but it's what we do afterwards that counts. How we behave and handle a situation defines us more than the situation itself.
Go forth and be bold, make mistakes and have confidence in yourself that you will learn and be a better person for experiencing it.
Trust your instincts but be prepared to be wrong - because sometimes...we make mistakes.
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Stay fabulous
Roberta x
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