A new found sense of direction - finding oneself

I think a lot of my newfound sense of self and direction is down to my age. 

I used to raise an eyebrow when my friends who were in their thirties would throw around comments like, “Turning thirty really does make you feel differently about yourself - it's like entering a stage of self-acceptance," or "When I was in my twenties, I thought I had it all figured out, but now…" etc. The idea of an almost magical change in the thirties sounded ridiculous.

But actually, since hitting my thirties, I have noticed a difference. Not necessarily about how I think about life, but really on how I see myself. 

What has changed (physically and psychologically) is me. It seems to have been quite dramatic and I didn't even notice it happening. It has happened and I'm OK with it, I'm not as hard on myself to maintain an unachievable vision on perfection. I think the thirties are about self-acceptance, but that's no excuse to let things just go, and blaming it all on age! 

My strategy now is damage control. I need to undo the bad choices I made before my thirties. I want to take care better care of myself from now on.

Of course, I was offered all the usual advice from those older than me. It was all the well-known pearls of wisdom:

·                Eat less processed food

·                Focus on eating 5 fruits and veggies a day

·                Get plenty of protein

·                Don't be a carb junky

·                Drink less alcohol

·                Drink plenty of water each day

·                Eat little and often, not large and late

·                Always moisturise after the bath or shower

·                Always wear SPF 30+

·                Never go to bed without taking makeup off

·                Use a good eye cream

·                Use hand cream

·                Look after your teeth!

Did I listen? Well, let’s just say, I could have heeded the advice better.

So here I am, a thirty-something and my body is now showing my age, all the signs of wear and tear. I've treated my designer shoes and handbags better than my body. 

It's not all bad though, I still maintain a youthful appearance, but the cracks are forming - I just need to moisturise them (apparently!) 

I just wish I hadn't ignored the advice of those before me, I really should have taken better care of my body in my twenties. You can't rewind the clocks, but you can take control of your future.  What things we you told by your elders that you ignored and you wish you'd listen to? Let me know we can add it to the list!  

Stay fab and forever young!
Roberta x

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